I was very excited to see Wendy Gritter do a guest post on XGW and
believe that it marks an important shift in Exodus’ evolution.
There is way too much in that thread to respond to, but I
will simply say, I invited Wendy to share her heart at the Exodus Leadership
Conference in January knowing that she was going to bring new life and ideas to
the table for consideration. I was one
of the ones nodding positively as she spoke. I know there were many others with the same response.
I agree wholeheartedly that clarifications need to be made
on confusing terminology that at times has been used incompletely or
misused. The ‘change’ factor is one that
has confused many. In one of my talks at
Love Won Out I have begun saying, "When we use words like ‘change’ the
burden is on us to clearly state what that means in our lives. Some have used the word ‘change’ hoping that
it meant something it doesn’t."
I echo Wendy’s apology to those that have been
unintentionally, but at times recklessly, misled by poorly defined labels and
words used to describe the process out of homosexuality. It is no secret that I dislike the label ‘ex-gay’. For so many people I know, it doesn’t apply—though
they struggle with same-sex attraction they never identified as ‘gay’. Is it applicable to some? Yes. But, it isn’t a label I choose to use for myself or for Exodus
International. For that matter, I don’t think it should be a label that anyone
uses primarily to describe themselves. We are all so much more than our sexual expressions.
There are a lot of challenging things written in the XGW
thread (post and comments) on Wendy that I am thinking and praying about. What is said by gay activists is not lost on
me. I do care how people are impacted by
my words, actions and ministry. Ironically, I know the Lord uses every voice, suggestion, encouragement
and criticism to shape me.
It is a New Day at Exodus International and despite our irreconcilable
differences with some, I pray that we find new opportunities to dialogue with
others, learn and grow in Christ’s image.
Thanks, Wendy, and all of you who contributed to the
discussion at ExGayWatch.