Alan & Leslie Chambers
Recently I appeared on an episode of Our America with Lisa Ling on the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN). The majority of what aired was from a past interview, but I was grateful that OWN released an unused portion of the interview online. In my opinion it was one of the best parts of my time with Lisa as it clearly portrayed my deep and unequaled love for my wife, Leslie.
Not everyone liked the interview, however. In it Lisa asks, “So are you heterosexual?” To that question I answer transparently, sharing that while I do experience same-sex attraction I am Leslie-sex attracted. I state that I am not gay, which I see as an identity based around same-sex attraction that absolutely fails to describe me or speak to the majority of my feelings, desires or sexuality. I stop short of calling myself heterosexual, though, too. That seemed to irritate some and confuse others.
I think Christians have confused heterosexuality with holy sexuality. As I have said for more than a decade now, the opposite of homosexuality isn’t heterosexuality (or vice-versa) it’s holiness. I didn’t take the role I am in at Exodus to make people straight or to promote heterosexuality. I also didn’t take on the role to tell people with same-sex attraction how inferior that struggle is in comparison to others. I chose to serve at Exodus International to proclaim that God created us to live out biblical, sexual, holiness even amidst great trial and sacrifice. That is my story and it is my encouragement to fellow believers and others who might be seeking.